Practicing Wisdom: The Perfection of Shantideva's Bodhisattva Way

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In previous studies, people who felt high levels of compassion spontaneously shifted into this posture. Just assuming this body language can make it easier to make a compassionate connection with someone. The RAIN of Self-Compassion is not a one-shot meditation, nor is the realization of our natural awareness necessarily full, stable, or enduring. Rather, as you practice you may experience a sense of warmth and openness, a shift in perspective. You can trust this! RAIN is a practice for life—meeting our doubts and fears with a healing presence. Each time you are willing to slow down and recognize, oh, this is the trance of unworthiness… this is fear… this is hurt…this is judgment…, you are poised to de-condition the old habits and limiting self-beliefs that imprison your heart. Gradually, you’ll experience natural loving awareness as the truth of who you are, more than any story you ever told yourself about being “not good enough” or “basically flawed.” This article was co-authored by Samantha Fox, MS, LMFT. Samantha Fox is a Marriage & Family Therapist in private practice in New York, New York. With over a decade of experience, Samantha specializes in relationship, sexuality, identity, and family conflicts. She also advises on life transitions for individuals, couples, and families. She holds both a Master’s degree and a Marriage and Family Therapy License. Samantha is trained in Internal Family Systems (IFS), Accelerated Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy (AEDP), Emotion Focused Couples Therapy (EFT), and Narrative Therapy.

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The Stoics might respond that, well, the life of excellence is demanding. Being a good person in the face of all that life throws at you is demanding. While Aristotle’s golden mean suggests virtuous or excellent character is simply the result of using reason well in all that we do, the Stoics — following Plato — home in on four virtues in particular: Much of the literature around helping and helping relationships explores ‘helping skills’ (see, for example, Carkoff 2000; Egan 2002; Shulman 1979 and Young 1998). In this piece we have approached helping as an orientation and a process. Whether the help is useful or not, it has been suggested, relates to the relationship between helper and helped and the people they are. In this context skills are significant – but not the main focus. There is a danger of becoming too focused on skill. It is easy to slip into following the form of a particular skill without holding on to who we are, and what our role and relationship is with this person. An example of this is listening. If we concentrate too much on listening as a skill we can end up spending a lot of time trying to demonstrate that we are listening (through our posture, looks and head nodding) rather than actually listening. If we truly listen to what is being said (and being left unsaid) then this will be communicated to the other person through the sorts of questions we ask, the statements we make and the relationship that develops (Smith 2007: 25). one of the participants intends that there should come about in one or both parties, more appreciation of, more expression of, more functional use of the latent inner resources of the individual. (Rogers 1967: 40)

As mentioned in the introduction, wisdom is gained through life experience. To keep growing as an individual, you must be willing to explore unfamiliar and sometimes uncomfortable things.

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These concerns led him to be careful when talking of compassion, to distinguish between such caring and pity. The latter, he believed inevitably embodied a tendency to superiority, to looking down on the other. ‘Real compassion is often uncomfortable and disturbing’, he wrote. ‘It enlightens rather than lubricates. It has few intentions and works in an unflaunting way and unselfconscious way’ (1990: 58). We are all capable of happiness and living well, both philosophies agree: we just have false beliefs about what will make us happy. Philosophy can act as a healing balm to undermine our false beliefs about the world and thus rid us of pain and anxiety, and ultimately empower us to live happy lives with untroubled minds.

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A similar set of concerns has emerged with respect to aid relationships and assistance to communities and areas seen as being in need of economic and social development and has led to the surfacing of ‘helping theory’. The question arises ‘How can ‘helpers’ assist those who are undertaking autonomous activities [doers] without overriding or undercutting their autonomy?’. David Ellerman (2001) has argued for five principles: The research aims to shed light on the relationship between evidence and practice wisdom (as an evidence type or integrating vehicle) or professional judgement, and how this relationship shapes decision making. Putting their lasting influence to one side, the four cardinal virtues should be thought of as the Stoic roadmap to the good life. If you can live up to them, then you will achieve the ultimate end in life, Stoics advise: eudaimonia (meaning happiness or flourishing). Smith, Mark K. (2004) Nel Noddings, the ethics of care and education’, The encyclopedia of pedagogy and informal education, www.infed.org/thinkers/noddings.htm How to cite this article: Smith, Mark K. (2008) ‘Helping relationships’, The encyclopedia of pedagogy and informal education. [ www.infed.org/mobi/helping-relationships-principles-theory-and-practice/. Retrieved: insert date].

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Of course, we are not the only people who recognize the importance of practical wisdom. Watch the following video and ask yourself how these ideas connect to teaching. Y: Your response. Riess is not talking about what you’ll say next, but how you resonate with the person you are talking to. Whether or not we’re aware of it, we tend to sync up emotionally with people, and how well we do it plays a role in how much we understand them. How to Care Deeply Without Burning Out Many other writers also use a three stage model. Put at its most simple (and probably most useful) the helping or working relationship is seen as having a beginning, middle and end (see, for example, Culley and Bond 2004). Alistair Ross (2003) provides a similar model: starting out, moving on and letting go.

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Self-compassion involves treating yourself the way you would treat a friend who is having a hard time—even if your friend blew it or is feeling inadequate, or is just facing a tough life challenge. The more complete definition involves three core elements that we bring to bear when we are in pain: self-kindness, common humanity (the recognition that everyone makes mistakes and feels pain), and mindfulness. Why Self-Compassion Is Important Carl Rogers’ exploration of the helping relationship, and his formulation of the core conditions has stimulated a lot of debate and some disagreement. For example, there are questions around empathy; whether we ever stand in someone else’s shoes (this is why Nel Noddings talks about ‘sympathy’). This said the spirit and direction of what Rogers says, and the framework that these conditions offer, provides us with a good starting point and orientation to exploring and fostering helping relationships. Does helping involve seeing people in deficit? Take on the perspective of the other person.In other words, this person is “just like me.” This is also known as “cognitive empathy,” or simply knowing how the other person feels and what they might be thinking. This type of empathy can help in negotiating or motivating people to give their best effort.